smoke & mirrors

"The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or..."

Mon, 13 May 2013 00:01:15 -0400

“The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around — and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being. The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness.”

- Daniell Koepke (via anditslove)

lkraul: Brooklyn’s iconic Clock Tower on Main Street, New York,...

Thu, 09 May 2013 23:56:21 -0400

lkraul:

Brooklyn’s iconic Clock Tower on Main Street, New York, was transformed into a jaw-dropping triplex penthouse, in the trendy DUMBO (down under the Manhattan bridge overpass) neighborhood in Brooklyn. The 6,813 square feet space gives you 360-degree view, but the most magnificent detail has to be the 14-ft glass clocks on every wall. All those who are house-hunting and have $18 million to spare, don’t snooze!

There are approximately 1,013,913 words in the English language but I could never string any of...

Sat, 04 May 2013 14:17:41 -0400

There are approximately 1,013,913 words in the English language but I could never string any of them together to explain how incredible I think you are.

kieljamespatrick: Let’s Cha Cha. @LillyPulitzer x @KJP on...

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 23:53:00 -0400

kieljamespatrick:

Let’s Cha Cha. @LillyPulitzer x @KJP on CGWP

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Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:49:22 -0400

an-argument-an-ocean:

“I love you” can also mean
Don’t leave
Please stay
It hurts me sometimes
I feel alone
I don’t know how to go on without you
I’m broken
I can only manage these three words

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Sat, 20 Apr 2013 13:12:33 -0400

"The other question everybody asks is, why doesn’t she just leave? Why didn’t I walk out? I could..."

Sat, 20 Apr 2013 13:11:41 -0400

“The other question everybody asks is, why doesn’t she just leave? Why didn’t I walk out? I could have left any time. To me, this is the saddest and most painful question that people ask, because we victims know something you usually don’t: It’s incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser. Because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is kill her. Over 70 percent of domestic violence murders happen after the victim has ended the relationship, after she’s gotten out, because then the abuser has nothing left to lose. Other outcomes include long-term stalking, even after the abuser remarries; denial of financial resources; and manipulation of the family court system to terrify the victim and her children, who are regularly forced by family court judges to spend unsupervised time with the man who beat their mother. And still we ask, why doesn’t she just leave?”

- “Why domestic violence victims don’t leave” - Leslie Morgan Steiner (via eaaao)

Read the comments on almost any story about a woman who was attacked/killed by partner, and I 100% guarantee you will see one that implies that the victim is at fault for not leaving or not leaving sooner. DON’T BLAME THE VICTIM.

(via stfuconservatives)

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Tue, 16 Apr 2013 12:23:07 -0400

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Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:16:26 -0400

“Reports of Marathon Runners that crossed finish line and continued to run to Mass General...

Mon, 15 Apr 2013 17:57:15 -0400

“Reports of Marathon Runners that crossed finish line and continued to run to Mass General Hospital to give blood to victims”

twicetheaveragerevenge: Lee Brice-I Drive Your Truck

Mon, 15 Apr 2013 00:03:38 -0400

twicetheaveragerevenge:

Lee Brice-I Drive Your Truck

jennception: Rebel Wilson & The Pitch Perfect Cast | MTV...

Sun, 14 Apr 2013 23:45:15 -0400

jennception:

Rebel Wilson & The Pitch Perfect Cast | MTV Movie Awards Opening

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Sun, 14 Apr 2013 19:56:38 -0400

Studying

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 00:41:20 -0400

whatshouldwecallme:

Freshman year:

Now:

thunderpopcola: This is how you lose her. You lose her when...

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 00:46:14 -0400

thunderpopcola:

This is how you lose her.

You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

You must remember when she forgets.

You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

She remembers when you forget.

You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her.

You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.

You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

And, this is how you keep her.

"And through our travels we get separated, never forget. In order to survive got to learn to live..."

Mon, 08 Apr 2013 22:56:20 -0400

“And through our travels we get separated, never forget. In order to survive got to learn to live with regret.”

- Jay-Z

the-absolute-best-posts: abigaildonaldson: Hussein Chalayan...

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 21:04:55 -0400

the-absolute-best-posts:

abigaildonaldson:

Hussein Chalayan Fall/Winter 2013

AUDIBLE GASPING

OH MY GOD ARE YOU SURE THIS ISNT CINNA’S WORK

ACTUAL PERFECTION OH MY GOD

jesus christ what on earth

I love how forcefully arrogant they are tearing that

powerful

This post has been featured on a 1000notes.com blog.

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Fri, 05 Apr 2013 21:27:22 -0400

"When a woman is assertive and adamant about what she wants, she’s totally branded a..."

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 12:31:16 -0400

“When a woman is assertive and adamant about what she wants, she’s totally branded a ‘bitch,’ ‘difficult,’ ‘hard to work with,’ or whatever the case may be. You know what? I’ll take it. Call me a bitch, call me whatever, it doesn’t matter. What it all boils down to is when the day is over, I’m still walking away with what it is that I came in there to get.”

- Kelis

"Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s..."

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 12:03:00 -0400

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Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must feer or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense.

You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.

”

- Rick Warren